My Friends and my conversation This was actually pretty funny, as I have dealt with a lot in my past and she doesn't know how I do the things I do and not get mad or upset about it,
So she asked me these questions, Q _Question A — my answer:
Q — Do you hate anyone?
A —"Honestly no I do not hate anyone,"
Q — Do dislike anyone?
A — "No I do not dislike anyone,"
Q — Not ever?
A — "No I did not say I never hated or disliked anyone, I just have learned that it takes to much energy to dislike or hate anyone at all, So I don't hate or dislike anyone"
Q — How can you not hate or dislike anyone at all?
A — "It is simple really, I have had people in my life that I once hated or disliked, I have come to learn that spending my energy there was doing me no good, these people would always be around, and in my life one way or another, For what ever their hatred or dislike is towards me I can not help or change, I just won't waste me time trying to change that anymore, nor waste my time with hating them back or disliking them... I simply have learned to tolerant them the best I can and go on with my life, There is so much more better things I can spend my time and energy on"
Q — How do you go about spending your time and energy in another place when you have someone that you would rather hate or dislike bothering you?
A — " Ah yes another simple question, One thing I have learned is to breathe through it, I don't react, and I certainly do not put to much thought behind their doings, In the end there is one person who will see all and take care of it for me, maybe not in this life, but in the thereafter surely Justice will be there, However in the mean time, I brush it off, and continue on with my work as a Graphic Artist and other Employment. I spend a lot of my energy on my blogs, Pod casts, and of course my employment else where, Also Friends help greatly. Today when and if something happens I don't really take that much notice I find myself not upset, Just thinking that doesn't surprise me."
Q — So you are telling me you never get upset over anything?
A — "No I do get upset about Life's unexpected moments, mostly dealing with my own demons, or frustrated over sorts, but with people I have just learned to tolerant them and move on, There is always going to be something that will be there every so often to upset you, But when it comes to people and what they do to themselves or to others, I don't let that upset me, I can not control what other people do I can only control what I do, therefore why bother worrying or stressing even getting upset at what others do, they are the ones that have to live with themselves, I just know I want a good clean conscience, on my shoulders, I don't want to play a never ending game of who's right who's wrong, who's better who's not, with anyone."
Q — I still do not know how you do it, Not get hateful about some people who are mean or hateful to you?
A — "I actually have one person to thank for that, She used to be my worsest enemy, or she would at least call me that still today, I am sure.... however I do not call her that anymore, as I have learned from her what not to do, I have learned patience, how to walk away from someone that can not nor wants to change, or want help to change, I have also learned that by what she has done to me and others everyone sees who really is the problem, and I have learned to grow up because sometimes, that is what needs to be done people have to want to change and want to be a better person, I did not like the person I was becoming when I dealt with her, so I decided that to be the better person I wanted to be, I would not let her bother me nor upset me as she is looking for just that, a way to upset me, through the years of this I have learned the best way to deal with that type of person is not to deal with them at all, ignoring those that bother you makes you feel better about yourself and what you do. People like that look for reaction to fuel their fire to give reason behind their own demons... I didn't want to be her excuse for the reasons why she is why or who she is or what she does. Thats all on her now, not me..... and everybody has seen it and knows it, I enjoy my life now more then ever and that is who I want to be."
This conversation went on, but stopped shortly there after as we went on to better conversations and better happier times, My friends know who I truly am, and by me not hating anyone or disliking anyone, but tolerating them has made my life much easier, knowing you can not control what other people do is a key element in learning how to deal with certain people and just knowing that if that is who they want to be in this life and waste energy in doing so.... so be it.. Life is just to wonderful to pass up by keeping yourself tied to anger, hate, and above all worrying about what others are doing... I handle it as it comes, and just keep hoping an praying for those who are going through a difficult time in their lives, that they either get help or come to their senses and try to be better.
